Healing feminine energy should not only be done by females but all of us irrespective of the gender. We all have both the aspects of the energy (feminine & masculine) within us.
We face issues in our lives when our feminine or masculine energy gets imbalanced. that’s the basis of all our happiness or unhappiness in our lives.
For so long I was running my life on masculine energy that it led me to overworking, burnout and dissatisfied in my life.
I did not understand what was wrong with me when I was over giving to others, always ready to say yes, so kind and helping and still not getting enough love and respect I thought I deserved and others not caring about my opinions or even needs.
I suppressed my emotions for so long that I thought I was being strong because that’s what I was taught as child as most of us; don’t cry, be strong, don’t share, don’t be vulnerable, what will people think and all the stories we’ve been told to become a good human being in this patriarchy society.
Femininity is often misunderstood as wearing pretty clothes and makeup & not being intellectual.
No matter what your gender is, every single human on this earth has feminine and masculine energy in them. one could be more or less in a person but it’s there.
It’s what we are made of, Yin and yang, Shiv and Shakti, Feminine and Masculine.
An imbalance of these energies is what brings chaos in our lives. while i would love to talk about both but today, I’ll be talking about the feminine energy
I’ll be covering (you can also jump to a section):
- What is feminine energy at its core?
- Key qualities of feminine energy -examples in action
- Why does it imbalanced (signs and causes)?
- How to heal feminine energy in yourself?
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What is Feminine Energy really?
Creation is at the core of feminine energy.
When this universe was created, it was created with the power of feminine energy.
While masculine energy is the space or void where matter is created; feminine energy is the force behind creating that matter.
One cannot exist without the other.
Feminine energy is about the energy of surrender, letting it be, it’s about receiving what we deserve.
It’s about being vulnerable and staying true to our nature. Being authentic.
What are the key qualities of Feminine Energy?
Feminine energy is:
Creative
Intuitive
Sexy
Vulnerable
Nurturing
Being
Playful
Spontaneous
Dynamic
Examples of feminine Energy in day to day life
Surrendering to let go
Surrendering to resistance
Nurturing others
Taking care of oneself
Standing up for yourself
Emotional connection with others
Why does our feminine energy goes for the toss?
CAUSES OF IMBALANCE OF FEMININE ENERGY
Over Emphasis on Masculine Energy:
For a long time now, as our society has moved more towards achieving more and more, there has been an over emphasis on over working so as to earn more and more money.
This led to a race between men and women to become more powerful by earning more money.
Earning more is considered respectable, worthy and valued.
This led us to become more materialistic and this carried us away from our intuition.
We forgot what acting from our hearts truly is. We forgot to listen to an intuition
Meanwhile, femininity got shut down and lead to being seen as a pretty face, hourglass figure, wearing pretty dresses and doing makeup.
Suppression of emotions:
As we move away from our own instincts and general nature, we can’t understand our true emotions.
Being strong is considered as being able to hold your emotions, not sharing with anyone and letting it all go; no matter how bad you feel.
With the continuous perpetuation of this conditioning we have become either numb to our emotions or misaligned where we don’t know what truly is going on inside of us leading to feeling confused in every area of our lives.
Ignorance of self care:
Feminine energy is not just about nurturing other but also ourselves.
When we start giving more importance to other things in life whether that’s our relationships or career than ourselves; we go downhill on our personal care.
Self care is not just about having a bubble bath or getting your nails done. it’s more than that.
When you ignore your physical needs as of nutrition, exercise or physical desires, you’re not taking enough care of yourself
Even when you’re not taking out time for some self-reflection or that peaceful walk in nature, you’re ignoring your mental needs
This neglect is going into opposition with the feminine aspect of nurturing.
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SIGNS OF IMBALANCE OF FEMININE ENERGY
- Ignoring intuition
- Lack of abundance
- Not receiving love
- Not being able to manifest
- Discontent in life
- Difficulty in expressing your needs
- Over giving
- Neglecting personal hygiene
- Suppressed creativity
- Disconnected from emotions
- Lack of boundaries
How to actually heal your Feminine Energy?
To balance your feminine energy you need to understand where it is lacking first.
Evaluate your life and analyse which areas of your life are suffering and where you’re feeling unsatisfied.
After you do that, here are 7 ways to heal your feminine energy:
1. Start listening to your intuition:
It might not be easy to understand in the beginning but with practice you will be able to understand the difference between the voice of your mind and the voice of your heart.
The voice of your mind is mostly fearful & logical whereas your intuition will be filled with wisdom, love & peace.
It’s knowing in existence.
Intuition is the slight nudges that you get in your tummy (the gut feeling) when something is wrong or when you need guidance in your life.
Pay attention to how you’re feeling about everything you’re doing in your life and follow this guidance & see how it works out when you follow your inner guidance.
Following more of your intuition automatically will be healing your feminine energy
Following my inner guidance has done wonders in my own life. I’m more happy in my life now. I’m at peace and there is deep inner fulfilment.
2. Opening up your heart:
Holding up too many emotions not only blocks your heart chakra but also creates dissatisfaction in relationships, in career and in every other area of your life.
When you let yourself be, you allow yourself to be vulnerable; you’re not only able to understand your true nature but you also embrace your authenticity.
When you express what you feel, you feel free.
You no longer feel burdened with heavy emotions. You no longer hold grudges and you’re able to move on.
Start expressing yourself; your needs, your desires, your feelings.
When you’re expressing yourself without any bondage, you’re healing your feminine energy.
I also have a Self Healing Workbook to help you understand yourself and your emotions better.
3. Surrendering:
When you’re trying to control everything in life, you’re working with wounded masculine energy.
When you hold onto what’s not necessary, you create resistance in your own path.
When you stop holding onto what you can’t change, you not only let go of the resistance but also let the universe do its magic.
You let the divine orchestrate its power in your life.
You manifest faster.
Let loose. Don’t put a belt around what you can’t grip.
Don’t try to control everything in your life.
When you let go of what’s not needed, you create space for something new.
Welcoming more surrender in your life will help you heal your wounded feminine energy and bring it in balance.
4. Practicing self care:
By Ignoring our self care we’re digging our own graves of discontentment in life.
When you take care of yourself, you are not only bringing more happiness in life but it also brings more mental peace.
Create a list of self care activities you can do to improve your physical and emotional well being.
If you’re not able to have a good diet, talk to a dietician or a nutritionist, to get started.
Get a health checkup done timely to know how your body feels at the current life stage. if you’ve bad personal hygiene or your skin is not behaving well, inculcate activities to correct that.
Though we sometimes ignore our self care because we have so much to do on our daily list of tasks but when you bring that back, it automatically brings your feminine energy into balance
because as i said earlier, feminine energy is about nurturing. Not only just others but taking care of ourself is equally important.
5. Meditating:
Meditation is not just about sitting tight and closing your eyes.
It’s more about knowing your true nature.
Through regular meditation, you will be able to connect with yourself, your true desires, you will be more at peace and energetically aligned to be able to receive the right guidance in your life.
With the power of meditation, you will be able to connect to your higher consciousness and let the things happen through you rather than your regular way of controlling them.
It will help you to get in touch with your intuition which is the basis of feminine energy.
6. Setting up Boundaries:
When you say yes to the things you want to say ‘no’ to, it may come from a place of being rejected or not being accepted.
True balance happens when you stand for what you need and what you desire.
It’s necessary to say ‘no’ when you can’t do something or don’t want to because you don’t resonate with it or don’t align with what’s happening.
You need to express your opinions without the fear of being judged. You must know that there is a time to say ‘yes’ and a time to say ‘no’ as well.
You don’t have to go overboard or show that you’re against the people you love.
Because, change & acceptance happens slowly. If you would say ‘no’ to everything they would not understand rather feel you’re being selfish.
Whenever, you have to say ‘no’, state a reason and let them know when you will be available for them next but just not right now.
Start slowly!
When you start dong that for yourself, you will realize what you’ve been doing to yourself for so long.
How much you’ve ignored yourself and your feelings.
And then you will see how it balances your feminine energy and just makes you happy from inside.
7. Understanding your emotions:
Not only expressing what you feel but also understanding what you feel at your core is crucial.
If you don’t know what you feel in the first place, how would you express it?
To understand your emotions, you need to ask yourself the right questions.
You can start with journaling or also talk to a coach or a therapist.
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These are some of the questions you can ask yourself
How am I feeling right now?
Where do I feel this emotion in my body?
Is this something I feel regularly?
What did this situation make me feel?
What does this situation (your particular one) trigger in me?
What things/behaviours/triggers make me angry?
Is this emotion related to a present or a past experience?
Am I fully feeling this emotion or am I suppressing it?
How can I express this emotion?
These questions are perfect to help you understand emotions and when you do that, you will be healing your wounded feminine energy because feminine energy helps us feel and connect to ourselves through our intuition.
I have made this Free Workbook for you To understand yourself better and Heal your emotions
In today’s post we talked about what is feminine energy and its true nature, what are the signs of feminine energy getting imbalanced in our lives. You also learned the various causes of imbalance of feminine energy and how to finally heal your feminine energy.
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